Why does fear feel big even when danger is small?

When to Ask?:

After a loud sound, a dark hallway, a strange dream, or any moment when fear felt bigger than the situation.

How to Ask?:

“Sometimes fear grows very large… why do you think that happens?”

Keep in Mind:

Do not dismiss the fear. The useful move is to wonder about it together without making the child defend it.

Follow Up [reflect]:

Can you think of a time your body felt scared before your mind knew what was happening?

Ask kids to:

Finish this question: “Why does fear…”